- Tomorrow is never a guarantee
- You are a team against a problem
- Rome wasn't built in a day and your problem may not be fixed in a day either
"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future." Paul Boese
Ineffective communication may have caused the initial disconnect in your relationship. It may have been something you or they said, or something you or they did or didn't do? You both may be feeling stuck with the weight of the elephant in the room, that neither one is addressing. Acknowledge your actions, and how it may have affected your partner. Practice empathy by putting yourself in their shoes to better understand how they may be feeling. Be sincere when you ask for forgiveness.
You may be feeling hurt and, or angry because you think you deserve an apology which your partner is not voicing. As humans, although we may have the best intentions we often make mistakes and depending on one's personal awareness, and perception of a situation we may engage in self-defense or aggressive behavior. Having said that, it's most likely that your partner may not realize that they hurt you, and if they do, they haven't read this post yet to know how to overcome the self-guilt, or resentment and ask for forgiveness.
When hurt feelings and anger go unaddressed due to self-guilt and resentment towards yourself or your partner it will enlarge the distance causing emotional disconnect. If the disagreement requires more attention than what you can give because you are too tired, acknowledge the love that you feel for each other with a meaningful endearment such as a touch, kiss or hug. This will allow you to table it to the next day when you can think clearly and speak about it peacefully.